Thursday, November 4, 2010


"Set short & long term goals, both realistic and dreamy! You never know where life will lead you if you put the energy out there to help lead the way. Be positive, put forth honest effort and push yourself. Listen to your body & take care of yourself."

That was from a letter a got yesterday and it is sticking in my head, so, I am putting it into yours as well. I've been feeling like I am on a really strange path lately. I have no idea where it's going, or where it's taking me, but I have to say, truly: I'm having the time of my life getting there.

There was an interesting talk going on via Twitter last night about goals, with some people coming down on the side of "Don't tell people your goals, you will be less likely to accomplish them"

I don't buy that. I think one should shout them to the world. Put it out there and see where it takes you. Go. For. It.

It's been three months now since I told you what I wanted. I want to be FIT. I have muscles now. I'm down 25 pounds. We haven't gotten around to doing another measuring, me and my trainer, (Yes, I have a trainer now. Sweetest evil women I know) but when we do, there will be less inches. I have pants that fall off now. I have a body that protests, but is beginning to do what I say.

I told you I wanted to learn to ride, really ride, and do dressage. I'm riding my teachers dressage horse now. (And this a women I spent nearly a year knowing, WAY to shy to talk to her, let alone ask her to teach me) Every ride, every step, every connection, every MOMENT goes deeper. I could learn this forever.

I found a sport called Roller Derby, and a whole lot of amazing women, ALL of whom so far have been 100% supportive, and tho I had no plans to play this Derby myself, THEY are firmly convinced it is only a matter of time for me. They could well be right. They took me skating last weekend. I skated with them. Didn't see that one coming, now did we? I want to be as tough, and as cool, and as BADASS slinky fast on skates as Joan of Dark, Allie Gator, Jane Ire, Fleur De Lis and the rest of the Derby women I've met in the last month.

And I want it all. I may not be exactly sure what it IS, but I know I want it very badly. And I will work as long and hard as it takes to get there.

If it doesn't sound too soppy, I would say that the universe knows what you want. Listen to it. Dream some dreams. Chase them.

They could come true.

Scream it to the world.

For The Win.

Love and Goals,


At 21:28 Blogger Chantrelle said...

All I can say is AWESOME! (which i just heard ben shout from the other room...unrelated to this post).

I missed that twitter debate but i disagree as well. I think goals are achievable if you make them that way, whether private or publicly declared.

9 years ago I decided to set up a celebrities section of FoodPorn, Boss agreed to an interview, and because of that I found all of you here. It was a wonderful bi-product of my original goal: to get to eat and visit with awesome famous people!

At 21:32 Blogger One Sock Short said...

If I had to explain to someone what brought me to this blog, and kept me coming back till I just had to de-lurk, I could just point to this post. Thank you. I need to hear this. 'Cause it's a good thing the universe knows what I want, 'cause I don't.

At 21:36 Anonymous Anonymous said...

Beautiful blog. And this is so something I needed to read right now. It's been a crazy year for me. A lot of setbacks and a few untouched goals.

I think it might help if I did a little more shouting. Because that's when things happen.

Thanks for writing this. For being brave and open. For what it's worth, I think you are kickass.

At 21:55 Blogger Chantrelle said...

Dork moment here. Ben dropped something down the bathroom sink. I, in my supermom capacity, said, "No problem! I will take the u-bend out and rescue the thing!" So i did. Great! It was totally easy. Then I proceeded to rinse off said thing in the sink....with no U-bend. D'oh! Major brain fart (a word ben just learned on this vacation) ;-)

At 21:57 Blogger Jane said...

Awesome is exactly right!

I stop myself from speaking some goals and it's because someone who hears me might have expectations and even try to help me to those same goals. So I don't say them.

How sad is that? I need someone to kick MY ass!

Thanks for being an inspiration.

At 22:01 Blogger vampi said...


love it. love the fit, love the inspiration. you are amazing.

trying not to laugh chantrelle, but i'm failing.

At 22:11 Blogger dabbler said...

Chantrelle, we've been having dork moments here ever since we got home. Perhaps it's a side effect of the HOTR.(Mark left his belt pouch at the car title place last night, then proceeded to take MY belt pouch with him to work this morning....had to deliver mine to me, and drove in circles because he forgot he also had to go get his.... and I'm still not reliably sure what day it is.)

I think putting the Universe on notice by stating goals out loud is all about intent. And sometimes getting others to remind us is good too. Why not is a much more effective answer than NO.

At 22:37 Blogger AletaMay said...

The past year or so has been odd and confusing and discombobulated for me. Posts like this are such a huge help. This is motivational and hopeful and gentle and firm I have needed all of that. Can't wait to see the wonders Fablo and the Fiends find as we forge ahead into the future!

At 23:00 Blogger Vinity said...

I agree with everyone. Fantastic blog!! You are an inspiration :)

At 00:56 Blogger Dragonsally said...

I say HEAR HEAR to it all.

Chantrelle, I failed at not laughing too, because that is just the sort of thing I'd do(might even have done it already...)

At 01:33 Blogger spacedlaw said...

And if you tell your goals to the world, the world might hold you to them! Demaning results.
(A reason I have asked a good friend to act as a reader on my NaNo story - If I have nobody to show it to, I might let myself think that it is not important enough)

At 01:44 Anonymous Anonymous said...

This blog is pretty much awesome. Derby is a freaking drug, you WILL get's only a matter of time :)

<3's to your goals, I too am trying to get FIT and doing Derby. Keep writing about your progress, it totally helps me!


At 01:58 Blogger Marjorie said...

Quick tick.
Read ya later

At 04:50 Anonymous Anonymous said...

N. You're Damn right it's important!!!!

At 07:57 Blogger FabulousLorraine said...

Thank you! I need the love and support. It isn't EASY doing this you know.

But so so so beyond worth it.

Riding this morning, followed by skating! I call it my Derby practice even if it IS just open skating. One starts at the begining.

At 08:44 Blogger One Sock Short said...

Oh yeah. I definitely know just how hard it is. And no matter how far along one gets, one still needs the occasional kick in the (smaller) pants to keep at it. So thanks again for the kick!

At 09:04 Blogger One Sock Short said...

Oh fod, oh fod, look what you made me do, Lorraine! *gulp*

I registered for the half-climb.

My hands are shaking.

At 09:06 Blogger One Sock Short said...

Oh, I quoted this post in my fund raising page -- "I think one should shout [your goals] to the world. Put it out there and see where it takes you. Go. For. It." I made it anonymous till I could ask for permission.

*still hyperventilating*

At 10:21 Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm afraid i'm one of those people who when asked, "what's your goal for the next five years?" the response is "to still be alive & with a roof over my head that doesn't leak." I don't really think that's what they mean is it? ^_^

At 11:42 Blogger Pi R Squared said...

Wow! Here I was just going to respond to your "shout it out!" ethos and there was an earthquake! Not a biggie...3.8, big shake, pull on pants and shoes and stand in doorway and we're done.
But anyway...I am 50 today. I need change! I need to be fit again! I'm a terribly secretive Scorpio...but maybe thinkin' outside the box is yelling my goals to the heavens! I feel it in my's gonna be some year!
Quiche, you are a total inspiration! Keep on doing what you're doing!
I do believe I need to wear my top hat again today!

At 12:27 Blogger Kelly McCullough said...

Lovely post, Lorraine.

At 13:04 Blogger spacedlaw said...

Happy fifty, Pi R Squared!

At 13:23 Blogger Pi R Squared said...

One Sock Short...I am impressed! 52 stories! You'll be able to crack walnuts with you thighs!

At 13:35 Blogger Phiala said...

Lorraine, you rock.

And how better to accomplish your goals than to share them with a bunch of supportive people who will cheer your successes, and poke you gently if you need a reminder?

At 13:38 Blogger Cecily said...

It is amazing how much you continue to inspire not only me, but all of us. We are lucky to have you Fablo!

I am in a little bit of a slump at the moment, but this year is better than last year this time, and next year will be better than this. Time = distance = less pain.

But I can honestly say I have made great strides at conquering my comfort eating. Even with some friends being bad influences and telling to just get the bag of cookies, I have been able to say , "No, that's not what I need." And that is something I haven't been able to do for as long as I can remember. You have really helped me with that. Thank you.

At 13:53 Blogger EmilyOliveP said...

You know what's funny is that it's SO easy to worry when pursuing something, when wanting something, when moving toward what you know what ache for. And that is like something physically restraining you, bodily holding you back. I worry a lot, but I try not to. And WOW, Lorraine, you really have had so much adventure, and will have more - and we love sharing them with you. You're the kind of woman I should like to be one day, Quiche.

At 14:07 Blogger One Sock Short said...

Happy 50th Birthday Pi! May the day be the beginning of many wonderful dreams fulfilled.

At 15:19 Blogger Precision Grace said...

Awesome. And I am so glad you are pursuing your dreams and goals and getting there and getting a lot of support and encouragement. It's just lovely.

Going for it is the easy bit, the hard bit is really knowing what you want. I mean Really Knowing. still major fail on that one for me. meh

At 15:20 Blogger Precision Grace said...

Happy 50th! P!

At 17:29 Blogger Dragonsally said...

Happy 50th Pi ♥

Sock...I am in awe. That is a lot of stairs, my knees are feeling sympathy for your knees.

At 17:37 Blogger Marjorie said...

Happy Firbday, Pi

At 17:50 Blogger Jane said...

Oh Linda - you are brave!

At 18:20 Blogger DataGoddess said...

My goal right now is just to get back to being able to walk normally, after 4+ years of limping :-)

At 18:44 Blogger AletaMay said...

Nothing "just" or small about that goal, Datagoddess! Sounds like a lot of work and patience to me!

At 18:45 Blogger AletaMay said...

OSS you are totally Rocking My World with this. I am so so impressed!

At 20:19 Blogger FabulousLorraine said...

Personally, I think ya'll are AWESOME. You inspire ME, and that's so cool.

Been watching some Derby Nationals today. Madison got beat, but they made me proud, I saw them practice and know how good they are.

Have legs of doom! Looking forward to the gym tomorrow...More or less.

At 21:18 Blogger Cecily said...

YAY Pi! 50 is a great number!

At 21:30 Blogger ariandalen said...

I think announcing your goals to the world, or not, depends on your support system. If you are surrounded by people who don't want you to change, then it's probably better to keep goals to yourself; then move to a healthier support system when you can. For the most part, I think goals should be said aloud as it sets up an accountability chain, even if it's just for ourselves.

Go, Ms. Fabulous, go!

Happy Firbday, Pi! Hope it has been wonderful!

Hi, prettygoodkid! Welcome to Fiendom! Here is your very own white, buckled jacket. Over there you will find all sorts of supplies so that you can personalize it. :)

At 21:34 Blogger Pi R Squared said...

Thanks everyone for the wishes...I went and had what Em would call a "badass" day. Friends and fiends are wonderful!

DataGoddess! How are you doing since your surgery?

At 00:41 Blogger DataGoddess said...

Happy firbday (a little late!) Pi!

I'm doing okay, now that we finally got the swelling resolved. Working my way through PT and getting better and better every day! The whole mess of the ICU stay, the fall, etc is is in my blog if you're interested in details.

Had a bit of an emotional setback on Monday - Dan's aunt, who was like a second mother to him, unexpectedly passed away. They think it was a heart attack. And she was 91, and had a good life, so while it's sad we also reflect on how good of a life she had.

At 08:19 Anonymous Wendy Withers said...

Happy Firbday Happy Firbday!

Happy Weekend!

And, Happy Shabbat!

I have a Serious Black cling-on on my leg that won't go away! :/

At 08:43 Blogger One Sock Short said...

Brave, crazy. It's a fine line.

But my FIT goals have been too vague and too small. This post, and the ones that led up to it, inspired me to aim high. Literally, in this case ;-)And it seemed especially suitable because my wake-up call to pay attention to my health was having trouble getting to top of the subway stairs.

For those not on Twitter, I have a wonderful thing to report. While in Starbucks this morning I saw a woman holding a young cat. She had just found him in an alley, freezing cold. She's going to keep him. One more kitty safe and warm!

At 11:06 Blogger EmilyOliveP said...

I was sorry to hear about Dan's aunt, DG, but I hope things are going okay with you both right now, and for all Dan's family.

Listening to Eminem and Linkin Park right now. Love my modern music time. So much fun. I could of course listen to Lady Gaga for like a week at a time ...

At 12:50 Blogger Beez said...

Great post! Shout it to the world, and love the journey too!

*grin* You do that "kick in the ass" (NICE ASS btw) thing in the best of ways.

Pi- happy birthday! In my case, 50 was a life-changer. Tough and glorious and totally worth it.

Farmer's Market job ended suddenly here- they blew out the water pipes in prep for freezing weather. No barista needed now!

....on to the next thing, but Oh! I got to sleep in a day!

At 13:18 Blogger Chantrelle said...

One (actually at least 2) of the moms at ben's school that I work in the office with do animal rescue stuff both as jobs and personally. One has 13 cats she's nurse back at her house. She also does work with bats and does bat presentations at schools. The other works with birds and sea animals. So amazing.

I uploaded a video of ben from our trip on to Youtube. It's him jamming on the drums w/ our friend AO to Devo. Ben watched and said, "I'M ON YOUTUBE?!?!" It was so cute! Like you had to be a famous rockstar to be on there and he made it. :P

At 16:50 Blogger Dragonsally said...


(excuse me, mad hay fever day here)

Ben IS a superstar.

I just made a strange discovery. If I sneeze near my fit ball, the sneeze echoes in the ball. I wonder what other bizarre things the fit ball has done without me noticing?

At 16:58 Blogger Precision Grace said...

I'm going to my first ever roller derby bout next Saturday! Yay and also Squee *so excited*

Tips? Advice?

At 17:54 Anonymous Shanna Germain said...

I love it. And I totally agree -- I'm a dream shouter. If I have a plan/goal/dream/desire/hope/wish, I shout it as loud as I can and to as many people. That way, I can't chicken out or back down. Because I'll have all those people standing behind me, ready to slap me in the back of the head if I let them down.

Congrats on following your dream trail. May it always bring you joy!

At 23:12 Anonymous Scott Gordon said...

Please take the advice of a very weathered, well-used retired stunt-person and physical comedian: WEAR THE PADS! All the ad-libbed prat-falls and "headers" that I took while plying my trade (and hanging around with professional wrestlers in their gyms) have taken their toll with my body. I KNOW the day before it rains. I, also, do a very strange "dance" when I try to get out of a chair where my ass is below my knees. I can also tell you in which venue each of the pains comes, this knee is from the Ritz Theatre in Elizabeth, NJ; this elbow is from The Bottom Line in Greenwich Village, NY.; and so on, ad infinitum.

At 00:48 Blogger ariandalen said...

Hi, Shanna! You are now a Fiend! As a Fiend, here is your white, buckled jacket. On that table are supplies with which to personalize your jacket. We each have one, and the beautiful thing is, it goes with everything! :)

At 00:58 Blogger Dragonsally said...

Scott, I don't think I want to be a stunts person now....

At 12:07 Blogger Marjorie said...

It's very quiet here today. I believe Q has been buying underwear... What's everyone else been doing?

I went to a little Con in Bristol yesterday, and today have mostly been blogging and reading and such.

At 12:18 Blogger One Sock Short said...

I'm heading off right now to the monthly meeting of the Chicago Creative Coop, a group formed by Valya, whom many Fiends know.

At 12:18 Blogger Chantrelle said...

I'm recovering from cooking an epic meal for friends last night. All wonderful except the main course, my meat thermometer failed and I overcooked the cow. We were all full from the previous 3 courses though and had had plenty of wine so we didn't really care ;-)

This morning is crossword puzzle and tea (kept warm by my wonderful Fluffy tea cozy!!).

At 12:23 Blogger FabulousLorraine said...

I am back from slipper buying with Kitty. Making lunch and then going skating. And working. All very exciting.

The Bengals love her, they got a Lojo last night too, who was in ton. We're throwing around some ideas about a short tour next year that may be really fun. We're going to mix Rock and Roller Derby.


The next week is going to get pretty wild work-wise, but after that we will be returning to normal. As normal as we are anyway here.

At 12:43 Blogger spacedlaw said...

I wrote some pirates and ruby slippers into my otherwise rater stern NaNo story. Cooked. Annoyed cats with my camera. Ate. Attempted nap. Failed at nap on account of too much tea and mad barking. Read. Now goofing on the couch while dinner cooks, sipping wine and contemplating piling up yet more words on top of my story.

At 12:47 Blogger Pi R Squared said...

Just finished watching my first episode of Sherlock Holmes from Masterpiece Theatre on-line. It made me beyond happy. I'm definitely behind on this...but if any of you haven't seen it? You must!

At 12:58 Anonymous Shanna Germain said...

OMG! I'm a fiend!!!!! Yes, shouting. Yes I am. Wooooooo!

Is it okay that the gorgeous white will not stay white? I am ... bad ... with white...

Le sigh.

At 13:10 Blogger Marjorie said...

Sounds as though it's a good weekend :-)

At 14:59 Blogger Fluffy said...

Hoo! Tea cozy got a positive review on The Fiend Network!

Yesterday, after I read y'alls' (well, that was awkward) posts about "going for it and just doing it and all" I decided to get out and walk, which I was kind of afraid of doing. I haven't been able to (due to hip probs) for the past year, and was afraid that the recent cortisone shot would prove ineffective like last year's. So I went out and walked about a mile and felt fine. Fingers crossed - if I can do this for a week and there's no pain I might be able to get back on track. So, thanks!

At 16:15 Blogger vampi said...

planning out my holiday cards. if you would like to exchange holiday cards, please email me your address. you may also facebook or twitter if you are so inclined

vampiress at gmail dot com


At 16:16 Blogger Cecily said...

YAY FLUFFY!!! Keep it up! I have very bad hip/knee/shin splint problems, and last January I got myself a pair of Z-Coils, and walking is SO MUCH EASIER. I highly recommend trying them out.

At 16:25 Blogger vampi said...

ps, my goal is to communicate more with friends and family this year

At 17:22 Blogger FabulousLorraine said...

Working on a new post here...Ah but for want of a zip drive thing, all may be lost...

At 18:55 Blogger FabulousLorraine said...

New post is UP! With video!

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